It's Never Easy But It's Always FUN

No Stamina For Trick or Treating

Hahaha I have to say that at this point, I’m highly amused. I know this will change with time, perhaps even next year. But I’m enjoying it for now. We were out trick or treating for less than one hour and our girls were done. We hit two neighborhood streets and even then, only one side of one of the streets. But that didn’t matter. That was it. The girls were done. They wanted to go home.

“Mommy, I can’t even eat all this candy in my bag already. I want to go home,” Storyteller declared.

Songwriter could have kept going but she did not put up much of a fuss. My husband and I encouraged Storyteller to keep going to just a few more homes with such cool decorations, we couldn’t imagine our girls passing them up. She acquiesced only because she knew we were heading in the right direction – home.

In my old trick-or-treating days, I remember running around until I couldn’t take another step. I remember assessing how much space was left in my trick or treat bag, knowing I would not quit until I could barely close it. I carried a pillow case-size bag all night long and at the end of the night, it was heavy. But the best part of the night was the end. Coming home, dumping the bag and counting each piece to get a grand total – to compare with my brothers’ collections. The idea was to have *more* than my brothers. I don’t know why this became such a point of contention but it did. It was a friendly rivalry but one with much pride attached.

Glide First…Then Ride

We experienced a revelation on Labor Day weekend. One that only another experienced parent could have shown us. We were relating our woes in teaching our girls to ride a bike without training wheels. Frustration was building with each lesson. An added complication was that we had a double-tagalong to hook up to my husband’s mountain bike allowing him to do all the work while our girls enjoyed the ride. So really, what was the point in learning to ride your own bike? And then we started hearing stories of how other kids their age (or slightly younger) had taken off their training wheels and were now reaping the benefits of their respective freedom. We didn’t want our girls to feel like they were being left behind.

 

So, we (well really, my husband) began the arduous task of teaching them balance on two wheels. He took the training wheels off one bike and held our daughter steady (her twin wasn’t so keen on losing her training wheels, so we left hers on). All the while, I could hear him giving instructions, encouraging her to take off and letting go. Only to see her fall into a heap…a loud, angry, crying one. And over several sessions, the frustration built. Theory and execution do not easily go hand-in-hand when learning to ride a bike.

 

As we lamented our stories that weekend, one of our friends told us to take off the pedals. Huh? And then he talked about how he took the pedals off his daughter’s bike and had her glide around the street for a day, using only her feet to propel her forward. As he had tired his own back from holding her, pushing her and letting go, he realized that she was so focused on pedaling to keep up and going that she wasn’t taking the time to just stay up. The next day, after she became a pro at gliding as she sat on her bike, he put the pedals back on. She took off. Wow. What a concept. I could already see how this made sense. Teaching your child to balance on two wheels had nothing to do with pedals. Pedals only got in the way *and* took the child’s attention away from focusing on balance. It seemed so obvious…but one we never thought of. We couldn’t wait to test this new technique on Songwriter.

 

Why I Do This...

I started a new career last year as a professional photographer. Photography is a passion that both my husband and I have shared for many years. In fact, I often tease that part of the reason we were meant to be together was because I’d never met anyone who took as many (or more) photos than I did at any given event. And so over the years, we’ve often talked briefly about starting a photography business of some sort. Fortunately, the timing worked well for me to embark upon this new venture last year.

I’d learned from the previous business I started (designing scrapbook elements kits), there’s a heckuva lot more to starting and growing a business than the actual passion of creating that “thing” you want to design and sell. And there are plenty of things one cannot control. I was a die hard scrapbooker. I had several layouts published in scrapbooking magazines. I loved creating my own elements. It touched me that other scrapbookers would love and purchase the things I created for their own memory books. It was so personally gratifying…but the industry changed. And I burned out. I rarely put a scrapbook page together these days, real or virtual. Much of it is lack of time. Part of it is the lower priority it has become. Part of it is…I just lost the creative mojo. Someday, I hope to get it all back. For now, I just leave my stuff alone – digital and real – for that one day when that particular passion sparks again.

This was one of my biggest worries when I started the photography business. Would I enjoy photographing other families, other children? Could I create the kinds of images that would touch other parents - the way the ones my husband and I have taken of our own girls have touched us? And most importantly, would I burn myself out?

First Day of Kindergarten

The day finally came. Our girls entered the first of 13 years in the public school system. It's a day that many of us parents look forward to and kinda think of it as the next biggest milestone in their kids' lives. We're no different. Funny but I didn't experience that pang of sadness that they've crossed some kind of invisible threshold. Perhaps it's because they've been in a full-time preschool/pre-K program for the last couple of years. Perhaps it's because they will be together in the same classroom for one more year. Whatever the reason, I wasn't nervous about their start to this important phase of their lives or even a little sad. I was excited, though not nearly as excited as our girls.

Storyteller woke up at 4am. Songwriter got up at 5am. Jet lag? Yup...but I think the anticipation of this first day in Kindergarten helped wipe out any remaining drowsiness they would have normally felt at that time in the morning. Songwriter insisted on her newest clothing acquisitions. Storyteller couldn't care less. In fact, I insisted that she put on a new outfit because I was going to take photos. She acquiesced.

They were both up, dressed and ready to go at 5:30am. Their afternoon Kindergarten session started at 11:30am. We had a few hours to kill. Chomping at the bit - a most apt description for their mood that morning before school. When we finally got ready to get in the car, Songwriter was full of nervous energy, "Mommy, I'm scared." I of course, told her it would be fine and fun.

Girls’ First Day Of School – In Norway

One of the unexpected benefits of having our girls speak Norwegian is this unique experience of attending school in Norway for a day. I’d heard from a mom (whose husband is an old friend of Truls) that the schools there were quite open to having visitors in the classroom. I thought, gosh what a great experience that might be for Songwriter and Storyteller. I also thought that their cousin would absolutely love it, too. It was the first week of school, however, and a time when all the kids and teachers were still getting to know each other and I wasn’t so sure the staff would be agreeable to the idea.

We’d gone to the first day of our niece’s school to drop her off on Monday. It’s her first grade of school (which equates to Kindergarten here). At that time, the principal introduced the staff to parents and relatives then called out each student’s name to go stand behind their new teacher. Storyteller and Songwriter both asked if they could go with their cousin and we’d told them not that particular day but perhaps later in the week. My brother-in-law asked the teacher that day if it would be OK and they were set for Friday – the day before we returned home.

On the Road Again...to Syltedalen

Another new experience for the girls on this day - a ride on a car ferry! They couldn't wait. There are several tunnels and car ferries on any trip through Norway. Their cousins hadn't ridden a car ferry yet either. Along the way, there were several spots just begging us to stop and take a few pictures...which we indulged a few times.

A Stave church built in 1150 was one of the attractions along the way. Kinda old, eh? Always makes anything in the States seem so new. Truls' brother was married in a Stave church a few years ago. Very colorful inside, beautiful paintings. We didn't take the time to tour the interior as we really needed to get on the road but still, the exterior was worth a short stop.

I'm always amazed at the animals wandering along the roads. A couple of mountain goats seemed to be waiting to meet everyone as the cars got off the ferry. Glad they stayed off to the side of the road.

A Stop at the Family Cabin in Hallingdal (Norway)

Yea, I know how lucky I am. Being married to a Norwegian whose family is in Norway means we need to make a trip every year to the homeland so our girls can spend time with his side of the family. Tough, I know.  ;-)  Seriously though, if we want to keep their heritage alive, they really need to spend time with their relatives, even if they're basically on the other side of the world. Though my husband is very, very good about making sure they experience the important traditions and holidays throughout the year in California (with the help of the Norwegian Seaman's Church in San Francisco), there's nothing better than visiting everything they hear (or are read to) about firsthand.

One of the things we love to do when we visit is head up to the family cabin in Hallingdal - about 2 1/2 hours away from Oslo. Here, Truls spent many vacations traipsing through the fields to fish or hike during the summers and falls and skiing up and down the hills in the springs and winters. So many childhood memories to savor and pass on to our kids.

A Byte Out Of Life (To Separate Twins Or Not In School)

Is Separating Twins Really the Answer? @ Yahoo! Video

Oh nooooooooooooooo...it's here! My video is out! But guess what...I'm not cringing. In fact, they did a pretty good job editing everything together. Though it seems that I'm constantly blinking (which I am), I don't think I come off toooooooooooooo bad.   ;-)  ANYway, this one is on a topic near and dear to my heart - to separate twins or keep them together in school. We've decided to keep ours together in Kindergarten in August...but not all twins are alike. And the other moms in the video, fellow twins mommy friends and SVMoms bloggers, Akemi/SVTwinMom and Ana/Bonggamom, share different views on the subject because their twins are quite different from mine (besides the fact that they're boys). Anyway, click and watch and...enjoy!

Beach...Pool...Beach...Pool...Repeat....

The girls are currently into patterns. boy-girl-boy-girl or step-jump-jump-step-jump-jump - you know, that sort of thing. It's a holdover from their preschool days. Recognizing patterns was just one of those lessons that stuck in their brains over the past few months. And so, it should come as no surprise that for the first three days in Maui, our pattern consisted of beach...pool...beach...pool...repeat. In that order. Oh sure, we left the resort, usually for dinner. But we really didn't need to, in order for the girls to be entertained. But you know, we did have that list. Which we took care of later in the week.

Over time, it was clear that Songwriter preferred the beach while Storyteller would have rather hit the pool. Don't misunderstand. They both had a great time at either spot. It's just that if you asked them where they wanted to go, they were pretty consistent with their answers. I think that because the pool was heated, it was the best antidote to the cold showers they had to take outdoors before heading into the lobby. So, a quick [Who am I kidding? It was never "quick."] dip in the pool would warm them up and of course, they just had to enjoy that warmth for a little while.

Pool play with Pappa is always an adventure. The girls especially LOVE jumping off of Pappa's shoulders in the water. They get really good air. Check 'em out.

 

 

A Byte Out Of Life (Kids and Technology)

Children and Pitfalls of technology @ Yahoo! Video

Such an appropriate name for videos coming out of this part of the world, don't you think? It's another project I got involved in with my fellow Silicon Valley Moms bloggers. We've gone beyond writing our posts and are diving into videotaping them. Oy, as Jill would say. Bleeding edge...I say. hahaha Who woulda thunk that I would ever have gotten into this world where I virtually throw out my random thoughts and people actually read them? Well, this time, because of my association with the Silicon Valley Moms Group, I got to be part of this new trend...Vlogging (video-blogging, for those yet to educate themselves on this new trend...which would normally have been me).

Honestly, I'm not sure how I feel about this. I generally don't like seeing myself in photos - a sentiment I share with many of my mom photography clients. heh heh heh (Talk about complete empathy. If I can make them relax and look beautiful in a photo, then you'd think I could do the same for myself. Yea, rrrrrrrrrrright...)  Anyway, this is the pilot series to A Byte Out Of Life. If interest, demand and funding are there, we'll continue to do more of these videos on parenting topics that should appeal to a broad spectrum of readers and viewers.

What are these videos? They're called "mom-versations." How's that for a new fangled word?